Is You Is, or Is You Ain’t?

Are you in? and I’m not talking about “sexually”…that’s your own circus and I ain’t paying admission for that show.

I mean, how invested should a person be when searching for a new mate? It’s subjective, I know. In my case, I need to be fairly committed to the process because it’s a lengthy and detailed one  I need to know the man well enough to ascertain whether (in no particular order of importance):

a) he’ll be a good lover

b) he’ll be cool with my situation

c) he’ll stay the hell out of my “other life”, and

d) he’ll turn me into his prisoner and marinate me in olive oil.

These things are not learned overnight. It takes at LEAST two days 😂. Just kidding! But to be honest, there is a very fine line between “getting to know each other well enough to bang like screen doors in a hurricane”, and “knowing you so well that I start to have feelings for you”.

So as I said, my level of investment is not flexible and open to interpretation.

Regarding my Tinder account, I’ve been slowly eliminating possibles each day. Some men lost interest in me because I suggested that we spend the next month getting to know one another until my class at the end of April. Their reluctance told me that despite their claims, they were looking for a quick hook up, not FWB.

Other men just bored me to tears. One took issue because I wouldn’t give him my phone number after 5 minutes of chatting. Another was unhappy with the infrequency of our visits- too bad, so sad. In one case, the decision was mutual: I don’t do group sex and he does. But at least they were honest and polite about it.

I’ve managed to thin the herd down to five guys who are pictured below. The rest of the dudes were eliminated for various reasons as listed above, and the two most frequent reasons being overuse of the word “sexy”, and using “text speak”.

Grw up. No1 uses dat NEmore xcept u. (Vomit).

What set these guys apart from the riff-raft? Simple: Their manners and intelligence.  Each one was able to communicate in full sentences, using multi-syllabic words (and yes, I know “vagina” has more than one syllable). They are educated professionals (with the exception of one). They are funny, inquisitive and appear to be honest. And a HUGE bonus is that they didn’t turn the conversation to sex within the first 5 minutes. Or 20 minutes. Or 48 hours, for that matter .

Why post photos of the contenders? Because as the weeks pass, I want to see if I CAN judge a book by its cover.

Alternatively, can YOU?

Whatcha think, Wise Readers? Do you see what I see?